Last week we went to Warwick Castle. This was our third visit but actually only the first time we'd gone in the castle itself. In previous times there was so much going on outside that we just never got there.
Thursday, 11 February 2016
Warwick Castle - 3rd time lucky!
Last week we went to Warwick Castle. This was our third visit but actually only the first time we'd gone in the castle itself. In previous times there was so much going on outside that we just never got there.
Friday, 5 February 2016
Please, mind your P's & Q's, thank you!
Manners....
I need to get it off my chest.
Are they even important?
Do people actively teach their children 'manners' any more?
Do adults mind their own manners?
Are there more important things to worry about nowadays?
Today, Barnaby and I made a trip to Warwick Castle - I'll blog on that later though - and there were a couple of incidents that left me quite speechless really.
Firstly, lets start with the school groups. There were loads of them. Not that *that* was a particular problem, no. Admittedly I questioned to myself why you'd book reception age kids (4/5) into a castle trip. They may be fascinated about princesses and Knights, of course, but there is little to excite them about a dark room containing Queen Anne's death bed... But I digress.
The bit that left me particularly irked was that these children, looking bewildered, clinging onto their 'partners' hand, holding their lunch bag in the other, were ushered in and out of each room at breakneck speed, with 'their adult' screeching at them to hurry along. So they did. Barging past and through every other person attempting to visit the room. No 'excuse me' or 'sorry' when 30 pairs of feet trampled yours... But, you forgive them because you know they are little and overwhelmed and a bit scared.
What I can't forgive though is 'their adult' who watches you stand and wait to one side while 65 people stream past you and does not even acknowledge you with a smile, let alone a 'thank you' for making their life a little easier. In every school group there were at least 6 adults. Of the maybe 40 or so adults I came across on our visit ONE said thank you when we let them pass. ONE. And she was about 60... Maybe it's a generational thing?
I was just pretty disgusted. If young impressionable kids don't see the adults setting a good example they have no blueprint to follow? A simple 'thank you' goes a long way. A 'say thank you to the lady for letting us go first' is not only appropriate, it's the right thing to do. It's teaching the children something.
(and if you're thinking that I don't realise just how tricky it is to be an adult on a school trip at Warwick Castle let me assure you that actually it was Barnabys last trip before he left school. I accompanied them, had my own group of kids, and at no point would have allowed them to not say sorry when they bashed into an unsuspecting member of the public)
We then went to a home ed specific event where a [very nice, fit, good looking too-young-for-an-old-bird-like-me] Knight spent 45 minutes showing all kinds of weaponry and talking through its uses. After which the children got to paint their own shield. It should have been a fun activity, however Barnaby ended up next to a girl who, well, is clearly used to conversations like this:
Girl: Mum, I want more blue paint.
[me: "I want doesn't get" grrrrr ]
Mum: ok darling.... And wanders off in search of more blue paint
Girl, to Barnaby: I said, I want more blue paint.
Barnaby looks totally perplexed.
Girl: I said, I want more blue paint.
And promptly take Barnabys loaded paintbrush our of his hand and carries on painting with it.
Barnaby, no idea what to do, just stands there looking at her.
Mum arrives back in time to see this and just rolls her eyes at me with a cheeky little grin and says "girls!"
Whaaaaat?!
It's no wonder that girl just takes what she wants, she's never been told otherwise. She gets exactly what she wants without ever being told that a please or a thank you go a long way. She's never been told it's not acceptable to take some thing of somebody elses just because she wants it. She's never been made to say sorry and mean it. Clearly manners are not a high priority for that mother because, well, 'girls' eh?
I was pretty cross.
After the session, about half the people disappeared outside. I took Barnaby to the lovely young Knight to say thank you and that we had enjoyed his talk very much. The poor sod was totally taken aback (must have been my utter beauty. Ahem.) that someone had thanked him for his time and knowledge.
Has life really got that hard for people that we can't appreciate them? Is it SO difficult to say thank you these days?
I'm not saying I'm the only parent at that session that said thank you to him, the remaining half may have done so after me, but his reaction was enough to make me think the half before me hadn't bothered. Yes, we had paid for the session, but I personally don't think that means that manners are left at the door.
Barnaby (frequently forgets and has me remind him) to ask to leave the table.
His knife and fork are always together not just dumped in the middle of his plate.
He says please.
He's pretty good with thank you.
He will always thank somebody for having him or for feeding him when we leave, prompted by me or not.
He witnesses me EVERY SINGLE DAY using manners with random strangers - thank you when they have held the door open, signalling thanks when someone has let me pull into their lane, saying good morning to the local newsagent as we pass.
To me, manners are the first stepping stone to kindness. If you practice thinking of others it becomes more natural.
To me, this is basic and fundamental in the raising of children.
If we let it slip, if we go soft on manners, people stop caring for each other and all respect is lost.
Having just had a bath, Barnaby bought me a glass of water and as he departed be said " if you want anything else Mum just give me a shout ".
I responded "thank you, love", because not only is it the polite thing to say, I genuinely mean it too.
What do you think? Am I being oversensitive? Are manners a thing of the past? Have you noticed they are becoming scarcely used or is it just me?
Please leave me a comment, I'd be interested to know.
Thanks, as always, for reading
xxx
Friday, 22 January 2016
The wanderer returns
Howdy!
It's been ages since I've updated this blog for a few reasons - firstly a 3 month virus wiped me off my feet. Combining that with looking after Barnaby, running my business and running art sessions at a local studio I was a tad rushed off my feet over Christmas and it was all I could do to be upright some days.
There is LOADS I could report in our home ed world but it'd make very long and probably arduous reading so I will refer back to bits in forthcoming blogs to cover it all.
Briefly we/he has:
Been attending sports club weekly - now for a double session because he loves it so much
Started a new topic on the World Wars
Interviewed the optician about eyes and eye health during his first ever examination
Spent lots of time with Daddy and his family over Christmas
Been to church for the first time
Started working through a new series of work books
Spent a considerable time outside/up a tree/smothered in mud
Started building a world in Minecraft
Been to Devon for 5 days
Typed stories on an old fashioned typewriter
Got crafty - learning how to make a fabric wreath and how to do decopatch
Been to two pantomimes
Redesigned his bedroom - we are decorating it 'army style'
Made a marble run at Technology club
Got himself a job as an elf - working for Father Christmas himself
Helped out at The Paint Pot art studio
Been on his very first theatre trip to see Mary Poppins
Watched the new Star Wars film
Moved from Beavers to Cubs
Played lots of darts
Pulled down fences and generally helping Daddy on site of his house extension
Had his first go at ten pin bowling
Continued at Badgers learning first aid
Studied Guy Fawkes and the history of Fireworks night
Learnt some tudor history about Kings and Queens with Nanny
Started reading (!!!)
Played lots of board games and has learnt how to play chess
So quite a bit been happening, as you can see.
I have been including lots of maths and english on a day to day basis - for example redeisgning his room has taken a lot of maths requirements and measurements.
So there you go, a very brief run through of the last few months!
Monday, 30 November 2015
Consequences
I'm always trying to maximise every opportunity for Barnaby to write. He doesn't love writing much so usually it's either a means to an end or because I have been sly and found a way to get him to do it without realising!
Today, though, what started out as a surreptitious event to get him writing actually turned into the funniest afternoon we've probably had all year, and that's saying something.
I decided to try Consequences. Do you remember it? You may have called it something else entirely, but I have vivid memories of spending many many hours as a child laughing hysterically with friends playing Consequences.
For those of you that have never played it it's simply this: each person starts with paper and pen and writes the following list in order, folding after each one and passing to the next person (this works well in a large group as much as one to one)
Boys name
Girls name
Where they met
What he said to her
What she said to him
And the consequences were (or what happened next)
We used people we know or book/TV characters.
Because you have no idea what the last person wrote it means that, when unfolded and read at the end of the game, the results can be truly hilarious.
Today I've given myself stitch and lost my eye make up laughing so hard. And Barnaby nearly wee'd himself in hysterics.
Apart from the laughter it's enabled me to to see what writing and spelling we need to work on for another day, and was infinitely more amusing than hangman we'd been playing beforehand :)
Give it a go with your kids and have some fun (although don't be surprised if you own an 8 year old boy and most responses relate to bodily functions..... Who *actually* meets at a secret farters club?! On second thoughts don't answer that!!
Here are a few of my favourites (which you won't find at all funny because you won't know the people involved but I'm documenting for Barnaby.)
Mummy
met Daddy
At the fish shop
She said "my pants are purple "
He said "I will shoot you"
And they had a dance off in the bathroom
Dr Who
met Beverley
Playing golf.
He said "I am naked"
She said "Did you know your eyes are wonky "
They went bonkers
Alexa
Met Barnaby
In a bedroom
She said " would you like a bite of my banana?"
He said "I like chairs "
She was sick on his shoe
Gemma
Met Mr Bean
At the bus stop
She said "I will eat you"
He said "you are a bit crazy"
They both died laughing.
Tuesday, 17 November 2015
The importance of GCSEs
Every year I find myself saying to kids 'don't worry if they don't go your way. It's not the end of the world' - and now I know, it's really really not!
How can the little amount of independent life experience bestowed upon a teenager be enough to have an appreciation of the impact this choice is supposed to have?
Decide. Now.
Pointless. Totally pointless.
But that was the system. That's what happened. That's what was insisted upon. That's what I did.
I wasted a year of my life in order than I could waste another 2 years of my life doing further studying at A level.
I worked my way up and became a Marketing Manager working alongside with people who were apparently qualified up to the eyeballs.
And yes, I was the one mopping up their tears in the boardroom because they didn't have the first clue how to actually deal with people in a real life work situation because *that* wasn't taught on their uni course.
Do you know the irony? I sat a GCSE in textiles when I was 15.
I failed.
My textiles teacher never let me complete a single item. She told me I was infuriating and I needn't bother with a sewing machine ever again.
Monday, 9 November 2015
Learning update 7.7.15
They had great time outside skateboarding (until my niece sustained a forehead injury and put a stop to it!)
We particularly enjoyed a programme presented by Richard Hammond looking at the damage that would have been caused if Guy Fawkes had managed to light the gunpowder! Here's the link : The Gunpowder Plot Exploded. We have also used this topic for spellings and been making use of the whiteboard for practising.
We had a great time learning the difference between venom and poison, looking at all the wonderful creatures on earth and looking at what we can do to conserve those that are under threat.
Brilliant session all round really.
Friday, 6 November 2015
The expense of home education
There are no perks, funds, bursaries, books or grants. There is no pupil premium. It's just zero.
- Workbooks - mostly unnecessary as we've not looked at the majority. Plus we wised up to photocopying sheets early on to use as practice.
- Ink for the printer
- Wet weather gear: invested in decent wellies, waterproof trousers and jacket. Good walking shoes. The world is our classroom, being prepared is the key!
- Picnic items/tupperware/blanket - we spend so much time outside it was worth investing in decent stuff. It took 2 days with leaky drinks bottles and soggy sandwiches to realise this!
- Subscription to online maths course Conquer Maths (we paid £31 for the year Home Ed discount)
- Home Ed groups £3-£5 per week
- badgers (St Johns Ambulance) £6 per month
- French lessons £28 per half Term
- Sport club £25 per half term
- Farm club £4 per session
- Forest school £5 per fortnight
- Adhoc visits: for example at Warwick Castle we joined forces with other families to secure a home ed discount so cheaper than usual but still an expense. One day courses such as woodwork or technology club.
- Diesel: I'm lucky to have an economical car which means we can get out and about every day.
- Extra food - my child does not stop eating. I swear he has hollow legs. Hence picnics are cheaper on days out!
I don't subscribe to a telly package - we have freeview and there is enough educational stuff on there for us at the moment.
Some people make use of Edward Jenner school which is something I'd love to look into but is out of my price range at about £45 per day.
If you're in a different budget bracket your list might have a few differences. :)
Friday, 16 October 2015
Brief update of learning 16.10.15
Firstly things are really sinking in with French. I wasn't sure how well he was getting on with it but week 4 and I was amazed to sit and watch him answer the tutors questions, in French. As always with my boy he knows more than he lets on and though 'shy' isn't a word you'd usually use to describe him, he is when he's worried about getting things wrong in front of the others in the group. He was like it at school. But his confidence is growing each week. Badgers was all about learning the recovery position which he had been practising in the week. He was pleased he got it all right. He's taking his first aid training very seriously which I love to see, but they seem to teach him in a fun way so he remembers it. We attended home ed group again this week, that's the third week we have made it. It's a new group so is not that busy, he is the oldest there but he loves having 3 hours charging around and playing with his new friends. He was a bit quieter this week playing with the lego but as long as he's chatting to his mates while he does it, he's happy. Sports club is a highlight of the week. He's always pink faced and sweaty from hockey or dodgeball. He went to a school friends for tea, and then to Beavers which was learning all about Dogs for The Disabled. They have got a really packed schedule at Beavers these days, something different each week which is great. Wednesday we visited Smyths toy shop. I decided to do maths and English in there. He went through all the aisles looking at everything he fancied to make a list for Christmas. He wrote down everything he wanted. This worked out really well as he hates writing so I knew that if he took the time to write the item down he really really wants it!! We also looked at offer prices, working out what was better value or what the saving of a sale price was. Other stuff: he learnt how to check tyre pressure and put air into the car tyres, he's read loads (for him) , listened to Roald Dahl stories nightly, started a list of spellings, completed a rugby trail at Roots coffee shop searching for clues and letters to make a sentence (for which he was rewarded 2 celebration chocolates! It kept him entertained for the best part of an hour!), looked at different types of rock formations, looked at pie charts, tried really hard with telling the time, has learnt all the words to 'Eleanor Rigby', beat his personal best at skipping and finally we have started looking at the War which is a blog post within itself. Overall his interest in learning is really increasing. I guess we've been at this home ed stuff 6 months now. We have both found our feet and gained confidence in what we are doing. It is great to have the freedom to run with his interests and apply what we've learnt in other areas to something he finds fascinating.
Monday, 12 October 2015
Crumpets and Coagulants
It took quite a while to ease up, and just provided extra evidence for my "you know you're a parent when...." list by asking "have you been ferociously picking your nose?! " and "have you shoved anything up there?!"
Anyway, we ended up having a long discussion about blood, it's purpose, white blood cells, red blood cells and and how it manages to stop itself. I took great joy in over using the word coagulant, mainly because it's one of my favourites. I spent some time working in a Blood Component Technology business many moons ago and decided then that coagulant is a firm favourite, alongside my other favourite word: anticoagulant.
You're craving crumpets now, right? |
Wednesday, 7 October 2015
What a load of......
But now I'm able to explain in a bit more depth about digestion and just why sometimes I can look like I'm 9 months pregnant or am in agony after eating.
We got out his science book about the human body and had a good look at the intestines, got the tape measure out to see where 5 metres of small intestine would stretch to (that will be to the back of the conservatory!) and ended up discussing how you can judge health by your poo, the importance of water in your system, hiccups, burps and farts.