Wednesday, 23 September 2015
Our first 6 months....
BARNABY
After initially needing some rigid structure (running to school hours, using the same 'perfect purple and 'growing green' to 'mark' his work, having a set lunchtime) the pendulum swung back totally the other way to the point that if something looked like learning then it would immediately be met with complete refusal, ending in an argument.
I found this time really tough because I was panicking that somehow I had failed him. I wondered if he'd choose to do nothing for the rest of his life - literally, the rest of his life. He played Xbox, he went to the park, we went walking, we played with friends, we watched telly. It was hardly sitting with a work book or practising handwriting or writing stories or doing times tables.
But then something changed. I realised that he WAS learning. Our conversations changed. His questions changed. His viewing habits became educational. Programmes on CBBC provide great entertainment but a massive educational value was there too.... For example Dick & Doms Absolute Genius sent us on a hunt to find out more about Isambard Kingdom Brunel or Marconi. Operation Ouch with Dr Chris and Dr Xand is perfect for looking at biology and the workings of the human body. Scrapheap Challenge is where the the seed was sown about making a go kart with Daddy. The Great British Bake Off has inspired baking and cooking.
Slowly we've begun project work - currently we are looking at castles, something he did at school in year 1 but we are looking more in depth.
He has:
Made a castle from junk modelling (still under construction, new wings being added each week!)
Covered history & geography by watching a 3 part documentary called Castle Builders
Written stories about life in a castle.
Visited both Warwick and Dunster, learning about jousting, making longbows and a tour of the Victorian kitchens.
Looked at the french words for various words surrounding castles.
Just before summer holidays he asked if we were 'ever going to do any home education again' and I had to laugh because he was implying he hadn't been learning things all this time. What he meant was that he was ready for more.
So we've started a new routine, we're getting the work books back out. He's started reading again and bedtime listening is now his Roald Dahl collection and not McBusted (I'm gutted, naturally, but it had to happen some time!) Maths is really clicking in with him and is starting to make sense. It's taken a long old time to undo all the self esteem issues he developed in school and starting his work books a level or two lower than his capabilities has meant he can fly through the first lot and realise he's not thick after all. We're using a whiteboard to write a loose schedule and his chores, and also as a learning tool for spellings or maths.
He's started French lessons, signed himself up as a Badger at St Johns Ambulance, attends sports club, Beavers and Youth Club too.
His bedtime has completely changed. At school he was upstairs and in bed by 7.30 and awake no later than 6 every morning. Each night was an argument because he didn't want to go. Each morning he'd be grumpy as hell.
Nowadays, I shuffle him upstairs by about 8.30 and he's pottering or listening to Charlie and the Chocolate Factory before nodding off of his own accord about 9.15. We no longer have that '75 issues that need addressing before bedtime' - in fact after he's given me a kiss goodnight, he doesn't even bother me at all. Quite a contrast to the screaming and shouting nightly before hand and me in and out of his room half a million times.
In the morning he wakes when he wakes and it's usually about 8am ish. He's happy and smiley and there is no rush to get out the door.
All in all it's made for a happy life for the pair of us.
ME:
As for me, well, of course it's meant a big life change. The biggest is juggling being a Mummy, a Home Edder, a worker and a business owner. And somewhere in all that I have to be 'Tracey' too.
Work took a lesser focus for a few months and though I didn't like it much I needed to spend time with my boy. Now things have really calmed down and we know what to expect it's much easier to fit work into our daily life. I get up at 6am every day before Barnaby wakes. That's my time to work, do housework, pay the bills, order a food shop; whatever I need. It's working, I can concentrate on the job I'm doing at that moment instead of chasing my tail constantly.
I have lost some people I thought a lot of, some friends who walked away from me have started to drift back, some have gone for good. I veer between being heart broken and devastated to not giving a shit, dependent on where I am in my hormone cycle :)
They don't understand why I chose this route for my Son, and that's ok, I don't understand why they can't see doing best for your child is the right thing to choose.
Hey ho. Can't all think alike can we?
I've met some lovely people and made some great friends. Variety is the spice of life, as they say, and you meet all kinds of people home edding for all different reasons. Some medical, some religious, some alternative, and all like me - just doing the best they can for their kids. I have been really sad of late to lost my closest friend who was home edding her boys - they have all upped and moved to Spain, which hopefully will mean cheap holidays, but it isn't the same not having them round the corner to do things with!! Meeting so many new people has made me question myself, my life and my motivations. I thrive on hearing other peoples views and ideas, I love discussing the potential of being vegan with those who already are, I love observing other peoples parenting and admiring their skill of keeping calm and rational when i am prone to bat shit crazy. Every experience is a learning experience!
I have learnt loads. Probably more than I ever learnt at school. From French language to history, there is no doubt that now i have almost 40 years of life experience to hang things on now. It 'makes sense' in a way it never did when I actually had the liberty of youth. I hope that in turn it makes me a better teacher now that I can understand things and explain them in a way Barnaby can understand.
Overall - the last 6 months have been a rollercoaster. I've had wobbles, I've worried, I've questioned, I've panicked.
I've discovered I do no way near enough 'work' with Barnaby compared to some families. I've discovered I do waaaay more than others. I've realised none of this is right or wrong and comparing is the route to misery. It is what it is.
We've laughed, we've stayed up late, we've got lost in the woods, we spent hours in a sunshine.
We're free.
We're happy. And that's what it is all about! I've not once regretted my decision and Barnaby has never once asked to go back to school which I think says it all.
Here's looking forward to the next 6 months.
Thanks for reading!
Tuesday, 1 September 2015
Home Ed and Summer Holidays!
That sentence seems a little strange considering we don't have summer holidays as we don't run our lives to a termly timetable anymore. Except that the majority of people in our life still do, so by it's nature, we do too. Suddenly people are free to meet up, have picnics, make visits and go on holiday.
The question I have been asked most is 'so, do you stop home schooling in the holidays then?'
I'm tempted to answer 'yes' because people tune out when the truth is much more longwinded.
The truth is this:
"Of course we don't. Home schooling, home education, independent learning, whatever you want to call it - it's just learning. And children NEVER stop learning. My child is no different to yours.
If we take our children on a trip to a museum will my child learn more out of that trip than yours because mine is 'home educating'? When we are with 15 other people in the woods having a picnic, will yours just see that as playing, and will mine see it as a learning opportunity? No, of course not. They are just children playing. They don't even realise they are learning.
Every time they pick up a book, play dress up, water the garden, fall off their bike, play football, write a story, or practice putting make up on their younger sibling they are learning.
They are falling out, making up, negotiating, learning to be quiet, judging their emotions, letting off steam, understanding teamwork, fine tuning social skills.
They are listening to adults, understanding how to be bored, nailing the next level on the xbox, making new friends, conquering fears, asserting boundaries, questioning themselves.
NEWSFLASH! This IS LEARNING! This is EDUCATION.
Children heading back to school have learnt just as much as mine has this summer holiday. They have not had 'time off'. The haven't had a 'holiday' from learning, just from the school setting.
Unless you stuck your child in a white room with no stimulation for 6 weeks then they have absolutely, definitely, learnt *something*. Guaranteed!
So no, we have not stopped home education for the holidays.... and neither have you :)
Wednesday, 22 July 2015
Fantastic Mr Fox
So a happy thing happened today.
Having decided he was 'right off reading' when he came out of school, Barnaby has pretty much stuck to books that are too basic for him like the Biff and Chip ones.
This has caused me major heartache. Mainly because I love reading. I know how magical it is to be of an age where your imagination is fired up and a book is the most extraordinary escapism possible. If you get this feeling early on in life, I think it rarely leaves.
It also didn't sit right because I know practice makes perfect and he was reading lots when he came out of school. So to go to the bare minimum made me panic. However, my ethos is pretty much "He will do it when he's ready" with the home ed thing, I can't deny it is at odds with my passion for books and reading.
I have kind of got used to the fact he wasn't reading. I've made more effort to read to him at night, and he would read if he needed an instruction on something. So imagine my joy this morning to come down the stairs in our holiday home and discover him curled up in the arm chair reading our loud chapter 8 of Fantastic Mr Fox.
What's more, he did another chapter this afternoon and 2 at bedtime.
I'm positively thrilled. He really has done it because he wanted to. And he was methodical and steady making sure be pronounced everything and had the comprehension of what he was reading.
Finally it means the brand new set of Roald Dahl that's been sitting on his bookcase since Christmas might hold more appeal to him now he knows he can read and understand it all by himself.
I can't deny there is a relieved part of me thinking "phew, I never thought he'd get there " but mostly I'm just excited for him that now he can find "his" style of books and that new worlds can open up to him whenever he likes!
Fantastic, Mr Fox!
Friday, 3 July 2015
My reasons for choosing Home Education
Mainly because, as I've experienced, embarking on home ed is bloody terrifying when you have other peoples opinions thrust upon you. I have experienced both extremely positive and also very negative views on why I have chosen to remove Barnaby from school so I can preface this blog post by saying that you may not agree with what I am saying, you may not agree with the choice I have made but *I* have done what I believe is right for my little
family. And I'm not sorry.
I also ought to point out that a popular misconception is that because I chose to remove my Son from the education system I must now officially be Anti School.
Nonsense! Utter nonsense! School has it's place and it truly brilliant for some kids. They will thrive and excel within such structure. I don't think that because I home educate that you should do it too. I also have pink hair sometimes but don't look down on you because you don't, it's all much of a muchness and 'whatever suits you'. I came to the conclusion that Barnaby having some education other than in a school was right for us.
Here are some of my reasons why:
Really, the man is brilliant. I recommend you search You Tube and watch some of his talks. He managed to verbalise all my jumbled thoughts perfectly and succinctly. Even if you would never ever contemplate home edding your children, these are worth your time because your kids are (probably) in the system he's talking about! He's not negative about schools, he just identifies some gaps and thinks about how we can plug them!
I recommend these two in particular:
His self esteem was trashed.
Half made models coming home because he wasn't allowed to finish it before the topic changed- I want him to finish doing something because he's finished not because the teacher says they have to move onto something else. I wanted him to feel like he'd achieved something.
It's claimed GCSEs are getting easier. Are they? Really? Or are the kids just better trained to pass them now? I daresay I wouldn't pass a maths GCSE paper today if you put it in front of me. Would you?
I find that interesting because people have hobbies because they are interested in that thing. They are self motivated and passionate to learn.
When you standardise testing for students you do every single one of them a disservice. A standardised test or exam will not show a kids personality, their passions, their strengths or their character. It'll just show someone who is good at being tested. I am halfway through a post about the importance of GCSEs so I will expand my thoughts there instead.
These are a few of my reasons that made me decide to give it a go in the first place.
People all over the world Home Educate for many different reasons but the one thing we all have in common, like every other parent, is wanting what is right for our children.
Tuesday, 9 June 2015
Sunshine, scarecrows and smear tests
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| When Barnaby met Ed Sheeran..... |
What a beautiful day we had, map navigating, seeing all the brilliantly thought out costumes and finding routes across Quedgeley I didn't know existed (despite living there for 5 years!).
Barnaby was particularly thrilled to meet Ed Sheeran along the way!
When we had completed as much as we could we left and headed over to a special boys 3rd birthday bbq and had more fun with friends.
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| He didn't have a clue who Worzel was....! |
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| "Make sure I look like a Dude Mum" |
The afternoon was spent watching me build it. It would have been a prime opportunity to get him involved in reading the instructions and helping with the build but quite frankly when you mix in my looming pmt with a 7 year olds over excited enthusiasm thinking he knows best how to build it, it was not a good combination so best that he left me to it.
He's literally not been off it since.
Finally I said he could hire a dvd and he chose Percy Jackson and the Lightening Thief. I quite enjoyed it. He apparently loved it and it triggered that kid obsession about watching something over and over and over. His knowledge about mythical Gods is coming on in leaps and bounds!
He did thoroughly enjoy telling the nurse all about home education and how it meant he could have lie ins every day and do nothing at all but eat crisps in bed.
Of course.
That's *exactly* what we do all day.
Saturday, 6 June 2015
Useful resources - stuff I found so far!
Taking into consideration we are pretty much flat broke then 'reasonably priced' is what I'm looking for. Free is even better! There is so much out there and everyone will suggest different places to look so this is really a quick short list of things that have helped on our entry into Home Ed - and might also be useful for those parents of schooled kids that they wish to do some extra at home.
Lots of stuff can be found by googling and there are lots more other places I've not even looked yet such as Twinkl, which seems to be very popular.
- www.urbrainy.com gives credits for 5 free printables. They cover EYFS and Primary and I mainly chose spelling and Maths.
- teacherspayteachers.com - Free printables is the link to a fab site that you can download various printables and powerpoint presentations among other things. The site is free to join and works on a basis of teachers sharing work they have created although I've included the link to the free section
- Primary Resources.co.uk brilliant site with teachers offering their work again so you can download via subject.
- http://primarygames.co.uk/ - kept Barnaby entertained for hours
Cheap workbooks can be bought from various places - Poundland, Asda, The Works, Home Bargains and normally under a quid. The best workbook we have used so far is an Atlas book for 69p that covers info all about the Earth and it's components and the lots of very detailed descriptions about the countries. We refer to this often at the moment.
Book resources can be found for free at the library, obvs. This is where we look first of course but some times you just need books for reference. I have found the Works great for these at a good price but my best recommendation is The Book People (The Book People) - they email almost every day with flash offers, free delivery or discount codes so worth waiting for a few days to work out the best deal. I spent £37 when we first started Home Ed and not looked at a single book from their as yet, however I know we will enjoy what we have bought in the near future.
If you want to have a nose at my Pinterest board for home ed the link is here though it's early days yet so there isn't loads on there!
We are signed up to Conquer Maths (www.conquermaths.com) which is a years subscription. It's a brilliant resource, provides a lesson and then a test for understanding at the end. It is worth seeing if you can combine forces with other home ed families to secure a discount on resources.
Finally, I work electronically! I only record Barnabys results and print him a certificate when he achieves it. He can refer back to his learning on the website itself.
I take endless photos of work and post some on this blog as a trail of learning which documents everything. That way I try to limit the amount we spend on ink and printing costs - and of finding somewhere to keep it all. My tiny little house is already bursting at the seams!
Half term happiness
Great Grandad was very interested about the home ed aspect of our life and Barnaby took on board advice about trying hard at Maths (!). It was nice to think that at 86 someone still has an open mind about the ways in which kids differ and why school isn't always to most suitable place for them.
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| Actual real life scary Daleks! |
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| Waterfight with Amy and Zoe |
| Turns out you can build a den anywhere! |
- Sports club
- Beavers
- Football
- Park with friends
- Conquer Maths
- Sudden fascination with Top Gear.
- Dismantling some of his toy cars and seeing their components, then using a magnet inside one of them to test various metals to see what is magnetic and what isn't.
- Learning about the Vikings - inspired by a Time Team special. Toby Robinson found a viking poo which was about the size of his head which of course, being 7, was THE most fascinating (and hilarious) thing ever.
- He's been practising his flags of the world.
- We spent hours making lego together.
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| At the Natural History Museum with Dad |
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| Every goat needs a pink diamante collar! |
Sunday, 31 May 2015
Official Local Authority report
If you are interested in the preceding post to put this in context you can find the link HERE Visit from Local Authority
Needless to say that we were happy with a lovely report!
Friday, 22 May 2015
Conquer Maths and The Solar System
I think it proved that Barnaby really feeds off my enthusiasm about getting things done and is not of an age to be self sufficient in learning. That's not to say he hasn't done anything of course, just that me facilitating his learning or putting something under his nose if often the way it begins and without that he's been inclined to build a den, hide with his tablet or watch Dr Who on Netflix (not complaining, I love Dr Who). I am looking forward to being tip top again and getting back on track.
| The early start of the solar system - can't you tell?! |
Tuesday he enjoyed sports club and as well as enjoying that, he loves when sports club ends and all the kids disappear outside and run around playing their own games in the hedges and undergrowth behind the YMCA! Tuesday night was Beavers again and they went to Forest School in the junior school next door. We had his friend over for tea and they created him a world on Minecraft for when he comes to play. As I explained to Barnaby the best way to confirm that you know how to do something is to teach someone else. You'll soon see where your own level of understanding is!
Wednesday we missed Home Ed club due to some emergency dental treatment I needed so my Mum came and made sure he got through his list of chores before taking him to the park where he spent 2 hours running around with new friends.
I've put in place a fun daily test - the day before I tell him 3 things I will randomly ask him the following day: definition of a riddle/4 times table/draw the Egyptian flag and then when he's doing something else entirely (in a shop/eating tea/on the loo!) I'll ask him the questions. Just a quick way of improving his learning and recall.
I've been doing some research and found some great online resources so am merrily building up a series of powerpoints and printables that will help us in the future. I am putting them all into a blog post to share with you all.
Got a hectic week coming up so probably won't post again til next Friday - but you never know!
Sunday, 17 May 2015
Scrapheaps, Balloons and an Oboe!
I am led to believe this because he shouts at the telly 'TUT. They don't have enough traction on that. If they go up anything steeper they'll just slide back down' and 'TUT one chain will never cope. They need a second to take the weight'.Lo and behold 30 seconds later the expert is telling them their traction is dodgy and they need a second chain.
I don't know how he knows it. Neither does he. I asked him. He's got no clue.
Personally I am just thrilled he's very nearly graduated from the 'how to take things apart' stage of his life. Clocks, kitchen timers, anything with a cable, buttons or a noise has been dissected by Barnaby. Hopefully now he'll learn he has to put things back together too!
The upside of this Scrapheap Challenge fascination is that he's asked if he and his Dad can work on a project together on the weekends he's staying with him. His actual request was that he got his own workshop built and furnished with any sharp or dangerous tools and one that make bright sparks when you use it. I'm not sure that's going to happen but I expect he'll be feeling pretty chuffed when he's built himself a Go Kart or something!
This weekend was all about friends and family - it was my birthday Friday so he had chance to see some of his school friends who had popped in, then he spent 3 hours playing hide and seek with a couple of friends from in our road. Saturday he went to Cattle Country for another friends birthday and thoroughly enjoyed himself, running around, wearing himself out and stuffing his face with food!
For my birthday I was given some helium balloons - not only did they prove that 39 year olds love them as much as 7 year olds but they can prompt a whole chat about different types of gas and then cause Barnaby to spend at least an hour and a half attaching them on to various objects: socks, toy army men, toys and teddy bears to see if the balloons would lift any of them. I asked him to guess in advance whether they would, and how many he thought it might take.
The kittens were not so thrilled with this game and guess what... 3 balloons aren't enough to send a cat skyward but is enough to terrify them so they fly upstairs with the balloons bobbing behind them. Who knew?!
Sunday we had a real treat - we went with our friends Vicky and Jemima to see another friend who was playing Oboe in the Gloucester Symphony Orchestra for their performance of Peter and the Wolf! We loved it! Not only did it allow Barnaby (handily in the front row) to learn the look and style of some of the different instruments that were being played but at the end they handed out instruments to all the kids who were lead by the conductor in a final piece of music. It was great - everyone enjoyed it and it's reiterated to Barnaby that he absolutely positively must become a drummer! I was more taken aback at how much effort it looks to play an Oboe! Well done Louise, I'd have passed out after about the 12th breath not from not enough puff!!
Sorry for no pics in this blog - my phone has broken so nothing to take them with!
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